There are many reason to end a relationship.
Fist I want to stress I'm talking about relations that last more than one year and they are real life toghether, communion of interest and sharing of projects. You really loved each other, experienced many situation and important events, planned holidays, maybe even a new house to buy. Both of you got mutual support in your ambitions and personal achivements. You usually live very close and never think about that your love can have ending.
However, at some point happens that all your past comes under uncentanty. You don't know perfectly why, but a lot of doubts pass throungh your mind and you start thinking. After you point out many questions about your situation and your patner.
Maybe is a delicate time of your life, with many changes, maybe it's just a person that you just met and put you in chaos, maybe there are some circimstances or event that give you wired signals. The reasons of the change felling can be everything and nothing. It's life. Nothing is sure, unless your family and you.
Stop the relation is very easy . When you express your concern, the partner already knows because you are at the point where nothing will be over. No more to say or justifify. It's just finished. In some cases the people try to solve the problems and cope with wheatever difficulties. But not at all.
Finally, you are alone and your important and big relationship is out. This is not referred just to your ex-boyfriend/girfriend, but to your past. Now you do not have more behind you except your mistake with a wrong lover. It's miserable to think because maybe you have spent many years with him and put a lot of energies. I can understand that at this point you fill exhausted and totally shattered.
But it's time to renovate yourself and more exiting about built a new life in the right way. No regrets, but just enthusiastic willing to do better in different ways. The future is in front of you and you do have just to start walking.
What's about your past? It' s right to close with him/her totally? I don't belive you can do it without suffering. The best solution is keeping in touch again with your ex and become friends. I know it can be difficult but you have to see why you break up. If there was no cheating and no new lovers in the middle can be more relaxed and you can rethink about your relation.
Do you think your pattner is actually really important for your past and your life? If it is yes will be impossible to say good bye forever. It's sound weird and juvenile.
A mature behaviour teaches us to go over, to try to understand the reasons why everything happen and be aware that something have to change but not drammatically. Your past is your experience and can give you a lot of advices for your future, but also it is your history. The consequences of the past are in the present and it will be better make the change soft.
However, some people don't believe in any more contacts after the break up. They are so proud and touchy are just want to find a new situation and just forget you. They woul prefer to throw away everything without pain. But it is unreal. Do they suffer anyway.
The fututre is written from your past and in your present. The previous relationship is your life and if something has changed now, you have to follow your instixct, but your past will be back you. In another way it have to be with you.Without it you can feel lost.
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